Get yourself a piece of the damn cake!
Here’s a scenario you’ve probably experienced before:
You know when you’re at a party, and someone walks by with the most delicious, scrumptious, amazing piece of cake, and you’re like, “omg I need that in my life right now.” You need to have it so badly that you even go to the length of stopping them to ask, “hey where’d you get that cake? That looks soooo good!” Of course, they happily spill their intel, and you go grab some before the word gets out and it’s all gone.
Here’s a different scenario:
You know when you’re scrolling through your Instagram feed, and somebody else’s really awesome house, kids, vacation, workout, business, project, or whatever rolls by?? And you’re like, “omg why is she always showing off her amazing [insert legitimately amazing thing here]??? Gosh is she really that desperate for attention??” But in reality what’s really going through the back of your brain is, “why can she have that, but not me?”
Let’s talk about this, because it’s pretty common, but also extremely problematic.
Why should the reaction of seeing a friend, sister’s, whoever’s desires fulfilled make you feel jealous and yucky inside, and the cake is somehow inspiring you to take action and go get some for yourself?
Cake is simple. It’s low stakes. It’s easy to go grab some cake for yourself. And if you don’t get any, it’ll be kinda disappointing, but you’ll also forget about it tomorrow.
Your greatest desires in life, though….now that’s a different story.
Not only do you know that it’s going to require some effort, dedication, and making some serious life changes – but you also know deep down that if you don’t take the chance on yourself to at least try to make your deepest desires a reality, you’ll always wonder what more you could’ve accomplished.
This is also known as “regret” – something you really don’t want to mess with.
Here’s the million-dollar question: rather than feeling animosity, jealousy, or envy toward others for having manifested their desires, why not treat it like the cake? Why not figure out how to go get some of that goodness for yourself?
What’s to do instead? Instead of getting down about yourself when you see others’ dreams coming true, celebrate with them! The best way to start getting your own piece of metaphorical cake is to learn how to get motivated by other people’s success. Check out 5 tips to get revved up for your dreams below.
5 Tips to Find Motivation from Others’ Successes, and Start Manifesting your Dream Life
Call out your own BS.
It’s time to start creating some awareness around these feelings. When you’re scrolling on Instagram, or chatting with a colleague, or reading an article where you’re confronted with feelings of disdain, jealousy, disgust, or some other equally negative feeling, it is essential that you start asking yourself “why?”
There can only be one answer to this question: it’s because you want the same for yourself, but you just don’t have it – yet. The problem is, we fall into the trap of believing that if someone else has what we want, there can’t be any left for you. If you can (1) recognize that your negative feelings are simply a reflection of your deepest desires not-yet-fulfilled, and (2) that you absolutely can achieve anything you can conceive of, you’ll start to realize that it’s not so far out of reach for you after all.
Celebrate their success out loud.
Now, when you see someone else’s success that you also desire, say something! C’mon, it won’t hurt you! In fact, you may find that it’s quite empowering to celebrate the successes of others – it makes it feel not-so-far-off for you!
This is simple. If you’re in person when someone tells something amazing that’s happened, congratulate them! And no, don’t be phony about it. You’ve got to actually feel truly happy for them. From a Law of Attraction perspective, this will help you tune your energy to those high-vibrational things you seek for yourself – but only if the feeling is real.
If you’re not familiar with the Law of Attraction, or if you’d just prefer it in other terms, when you can feel happy for someone else’s success, you put yourself in the frame of mind to be able to achieve the same success for yourself.
Here’s what it’s really about: if you can’t feel happy for other people’s successes, you won’t feel happy about yours when they roll around. Now isn’t that the ultimate drag? It would be like throwing that delicious slice of cake you just got straight on the floor, then stomping on it and twisting it into the carpet.
What a terrible waste.
Write out your own desires.
Wanna know the fastest way to actually achieving the success you want in your life and/or amazing business? Write down what you want. Doesn’t matter where or how, just write it down. The simple act of taking the thoughts and putting them into material reality on a piece of paper is enough to help you focus on them daily and start working toward them.
Take it one step further even, and start doing some math! If you want to save $100,000 in a year, how much do you need to put away each month? And if you want to put $X away each month, how much more do you need to make a month to cover your expenses? Keep digging from there. You’ll find that discovering these numbers makes a lot of goals far more attainable than you would’ve thought if you hadn’t written them down.
Now – don’t take my words out of context. You have to still work within the parameters of what reality will allow. If you’re $100,000 in debt, and you’ve set a goal of making $1 million this year…..I’m not saying it’s impossible, but I am saying it may be unlikely. Baby steps is the way to success. Slow and steady wins the race.
Start a conversation.
Here’s something way too many people don’t consider. When you that someone else has something that you want, why not just strike up a conversation about it and ask them how they got it??? We’re shameless enough to do it about cake, why not other stuff too?
This is where all the excuses roll in: “I don’t want to be a bother,” or “No way that’s super creepy,” or “They’ll think I’m a total weirdo.” Here’s my response to all of these: WHO FREAKIN’ CARES??? If it’s what you want, no one else is going to make it happen for you. No one is going to go out of their way to make sure you know everything you need to know about how to make your dreams come true. No one has time for that, because they’re all busy working on dreams of their own.
The truth is, most people are happy to help! In fact, very often they’re flattered that you’ve taken enough interest in them to notice something. Just ask! You never know what good might come out of it.
Take some action.
Ok, now it’s time to get down to biz-nass. You’ve got an idea of what you want. You’ve determined a reasonable method of motivating yourself. You’ve even got some inside intel to help you get started. Now it’s all on you. The spotlight is on. Will you stand there and make the magic happen? Or are you going to run off the stage and go hide in the dressing room?
No way, Jose! You’re going to make that magic happen and sing the crap out of that song! Ok ok, I’m making a thespian analogy, but I think you get my point. Now is your time to shine. You just have to do the thing. It’s ok if it’s not perfect. It’s ok if you want a second crack at it once you’ve taken your first shot.
The most important thing is that you give yourself the chance to make your life look the way you’ve always wanted it to. You owe it to yourself, and only you can make it happen.